Welcome to SR.
Finding this site was the best thing I ever did for myself. My son is a 22 year old addict. When we found out over 2 years ago he was using, we thought it was that he was just hanging with the wrong crowd. So we helped him get better, sending him to rehab, waiting on him hand and foot. He was out of work for awhile, then as soon as he got some money in his pocket, he was back to using and has been using off and on for 2 years now.
We finally had to throw him out over 4 weeks ago, after realizing that there was nothing else we could do for him. He is on his own and needs to hit bottom. I cried for days and felt like I would go out of my mind with worry. But now that it's been a month, I'm starting to realize it's the best thing I ever did. He was ruining our family life, always chaos. I also have 2 daughters to consider. He is now living with a friend and has been clean for 4 weeks now. I pray it stays that way, but I won't have him back until I'm convinced.
I know it's hard, but her husband is doing the right thing.
Good luck.
Louise