Thanks for the reminders
I needed the cinderellawkids reminder that worrying isn't going to change anything. My son is about to be discharged from the military - relapse after a year of great stuff happening for him - though I knew he was still drinking he was passing the drug tests. I've become anxious again, obsessing, forgetting all my alanon years, can't eat due to the anxiety. This site keeps me more sane during the day at least.
Worst for me is that the setback wasn't enough to create a desire for sobriety. Hard to imagine what it might take.
I love that kid so much but he's 22 now and in charge of his own life's choices.
I thank all of you for your posts. They help when I need to be reminded to LET IT GO!! AHHHHHHHHH.