(((Livelife))) As you have discovered, you are not dealing with the man you love, but with the desperate, conniving, scheming, heartless addict.
I had to be careful not to trust the addict based on my history with my loved one. I got burned several times first.
I think other thoughts when active addicts talk to me.... wondering if I'll have time to get to the store before it closes, thinking of what I need for work tomorrow, imagining building an organizer for my closet.... all the while just giving non-commital "noises" to the addict.
They may need to talk, I do NOT need to listen.
Sounds like he may be working up to getting himself a restraining order. Keep those babies safe (including leaving them a healthy mom!!) at all costs.... all costs.
(((hugs)))