Calabash...
1st I want to congratulate you on your clean time and your dedication to the relatiionship. WTG!!!!!!
Just a thought about porn....and you can take what you want and leave the rest
Generally it is degrading to women. We are not objects nor one dimensional. But how would you feel if you found your wife hiding a behavior from you, and perhaps it was something equivalent. There is a feeling of betrayal there. Say she was having internet chats of a sexual nature with other men?! Would that bother you....especially if she was hiding it from you and you accidentally discovered it? Would you think she was entitled to her privacy in that incident. Just something to think about.
You sound like you are handling all this very well. Congrats!!!