Also I don't think you have a right to look at porn if it is destroying your relationship. Your first responsiblity is to the relationship. And your first responsibility should be to protect that relationship whatever the cost. When you love someone you have to take into account their feelings too. I know that addicts tend to be very selfish people (not saying this to hurt your feelings, just have experienced it first hand, addict daughter 20.) But when you are in a relationship it is no longer about I, it is about we. Marle