for me, it took dwelling on the a, to get off my ... and take my life back. It took alot of anger and still is there at times, to get past and on with life. Unfortunely, I lost alot of my funds and made my self esteem even take a deeper nose dive. It's been 2 yrs since he has been gone and during and after this, I had to deal with living on a shoestring, ramen noodles, whatever to get myself out of this. Necessity is the mother of invention... That and even though I won't be getting anywhere near the $$$$$ I lost, life is showing me ways to get my finances back on track. Now I have learned I can have a happy life despite everything I have been through.