Hi,
I'm just thinking about what you said about when he's down and out he needs but when he's rebuilding his life he doesn't.
After 3 years with my ex I discovered that if something better came along he would have dumped me in a second. I was only there for him and what he could get from me.
My fault in it was I shouldn't have been there in the first place with someone who didn't want a committed relationship and also I shouldn't have given so much to the relationship, I should have been taking care of me. Anyway live and learn that's part of my disease of co-dependency.
Ngaire