ohmigod, i forgot to mention that i watched a special on the Amish schoolhouse killings on some cable channel the other day. Talk about having power in your grief....whoa.
About 75 people from the Amish community showed up at the funeral of the man who shot the young schoolgirls. They prayed for him and for his widow. It seems like they try to rid themselves of resentments as quickly as possible and hold to "it's God's way." Put that in a 12-step program and smoke it. It works right with, it doesn't it?
My dear friend who lost her 4-year-old son in a tragic accident is a strong Quaker and her faith was amazing then and now. Just amazing.
It's the anger and the resentments that kill us--those who are left in the destruction. Don't feed them.