just want to chime in and say that i agree with marle and dolly, i had to learn to take care of myself, and so did my 5 younger siblings, do the same thing with my kids. i believe in letting them learn while they are still young, so i won't still have to do it for them when they get older. glad that she found her own way, now that you know that she can do it, maybe things will get a little easier for you.