wking, are you saying that you think that you have failed him? i hope that you do know that this is not your fault. i still believe that it was a choice for me to use in the first place but i did not choose to be addicted. now that i have few yrs clean and a few recovery tools, then yes i feel like it becomes a choice to use. i don't know if i'm confused here. nobody has to continue to be active in their addiction. i just believe that i do have an addictive personality i'm one to get addicted to almost any thing i touch.
it is so good that you both are seeing counselors, and i do understand how you feel. my husband is also addicted to crack and i have been tring to cope with his addiction for the whole 21 yrs of marriage. when i first came here, i was stoned crazy. if i misunderstood your post then i'm sorry.