Thank you everyone for being so honest!! I think I understand where I should go with this. I need to back off of him (even if it's just inside my head) and stop waiting for him to slip and fall. I need to be there for him emotionally even if it means letting go of some of my pride of "working my own program". I need to continue working my own recovery and let him know that I'm not concerned right now about what he is doing, that I love him and will be there for him, but I'm focusing on myself.
A lot of what I heard from him last night, was "what about me". He didn't want to hear anything about me, which is what bothers me (this goes even outside the alcoholism). I guess I should let go of that as well and focus on my recovery and do just what you said, Meg...let him know that what I am doing is about me and what he does is about him. We need to work together as well, but respect each other's need to focus on our own recovery.
Am I getting it???