Hi Kitkat,
Darnit Smoke!
You beat me to it LOL :p
Smoke is right on the money (would we expect anything less??)
You cannot do it for him, and there is no right or wrong way - there is only HIS way; even if it means NOT going to meetings, NOT going to church, being "mr GRUMP" etc... He can only do what he is capable of, and right now, this is it.
I explained to him that currently I am working very hard on myself and I need time. He said that he's quit drinking and that should be enough from him. He doesn't feel he needs to try in any other area - that it's all on me and if stopping the drinking isn't enough - then why should he bother
And what do you say in response??
You say, "IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU, It's about ME and my recovery. You can do whatever you need to, but DON'T do it for me."
Take care Kitkat
Meg