Welcome to Sober Recovery, Alton. My mother is the addict in my life right now. I went through all the things you did, but with prescription bottles, not wine bottles. I finally started to realize that there was nothing I could do to get her to stop using and that she was clearly abusing drugs.
From there I learned that I did not cause her to abuse, I cannot control her abuse, and I cannot cure her abuse. Things became easier for me after that.