take a deep breath and center yourself for a moment, then realize you are doing alot for her and you need to take care of you especially during this time, even when you feel like you have used all your energy up, because this is alot of work and very emotionally draining, don't lose sight of the fact that you can'not do it all for her and she may or may not make it this time, I really hope she doesn't lose her job, that would be a shame. I will pray for her and you too. peace-blackbird