It is not you
Osier59, you are quite welcome. No, it is not you, you are not the attraction. It is the men themselves and the choices that they make. What you can do for yourself to strengthen your personal magnet. Try to move in a circle of friends over and above your Al-Anon group that do not know anything about alcoholics and addicts. You will find that if you do not bring it up, you have upgraded your attraction. The people who are addicts/alcoholics in your life. They all need a personal plan of recovery from addiction. As you well know, you're plan is quite personal, the steps as applied to your peculiar and particular situation is also personal. God is good, life is good and it is short, so enjoy it and don't be afraid to take chances with recovering people. That's my story and I'm stickin to it (smile):shades: