I am sorry that you are going thru this...........its so difficult to face things we cannot change and the overwhelming need most of us have to fix things or worry about things for the ones we love compounds the stress for us ( it does for me)
the thing to remember is this..........you didnt cause it you can't control it (theres another C in this list but I can't think of it now
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Just try to take care of yourself...........and know that its up to her, and no matter what struggles she faces........if shes ready for help and shes ready to change her life she will...........and the job the spouse and anything else will work themselves out in time.....................
Keep coming here, keep reading and posting...........it helps to know your not alone and it helps to be able to voice/type our fears and concerns.............then its easier to let them go.........
(((((((hugs)))))))))) and prayers for you and your mom