I never knew there were so many like my AH out there until I started reading here. In AA meetings I'd only heard about those that were far more progressed than mine, or there was just enough difference between their stories and my AH at the time, I actually thought he WAS different. Little did I realize he was slowly becoming what each of them described; he was still working on "his story", as they say. The "isms" really are amazingly shared by so very many.