prodigal

I started reading threads here several days ago. I mean, REALLY reading them. It suddenly struck me that regardless of age, race, religion, or creed, the A's appear to follow almost stereotypical patterns. The abuse, the blaming, the "victimhood," the manipulation, the lies, the denial. It seems as if each one of us is treated in a simiar fashion.

I know we've had the discussion here many times about what comes first; the character defects that lead to addiction or the addiction causing or magnifying the character defects.

There is probably no answer to this; however, I was struck by how many alcoholic spouses are exactly like mine in the way the operate. Of course, we codies tend to be similar as well ....