I know there are alcoholics who have strong opinions about Alanon without ever having set foot into the rooms of Alanon (and it goes the other way, too, btw). Some AAsl me they believe we sit around all night talking about THEM.
I like the advice above - "consider the source"... after all, we have no idea where those two are coming from.
And remember what they tell us around the AA tables....
"we are here because we aren't all there".
((((hugs))))