OMG. I can see why it upset you. It would upset me if I saw that! What they are not getting is that we (Alanon) is sicker than they are. We stayed in a relationship that was either mentally, verbally, or physically abusive because their actions have made it hard for us to think on our own. They go on with their lives even in recovery. Their main priority is staying sober. Some of us can't take anymore of the selfishness they protray and leave. Some of us stay because we are still sick.