Thank you all..... I keep thinking of the saying "Nothing changes if Nothing Changes" a councelor once told us "you all just keep doing the same dance." .... .... and you are right he will drink whether I am here of not. I feel like a weak loser not doing anything about it. His family will support me no matter what I decide they are heart sick about the whole thing too. He is so depressed but meds don't seem to help much....Nobody needs this in their life. anyway thanks for the shoulder and hopefully I will get IT and move on with my life.....