(((4LeafClover)))) lots of hugs coming your way.
You know, it was some time back...I had stopped coming here and stopped really focusing on me and my recovery. You see, my AH had stopped drinking and I guess I felt I really didn't need to be here. What I found was that I was wrong!!!!! Even now, the A in my life and I are divorced - and I'm still here.
I found that whether the A in my life was drinking or not.......having loved and lived with an A had affected my life. It changed who I was and the effects of that relationship will be with me forever! Therefore, I will continue to come here to work on ME!
So you asked for advice......and here's what I'd suggest.
You put the focus on you and your recovery. You learn about codependancy and you find YOU again. You begin building your life one step at a time. Alanon, counseling, and utilizing whatever tools work for you.
Recovery is FOR YOU and it's ABOUT YOU!!!!!