Newcomer here...
Hi, my name is Leslie and my husband is an alcoholic and cocaine addict. (He was in rehab for two weeks Jan 11th till Jan 26th, and I attended all the family services there) They strongly suggested that I go to Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meeting in my area but they are all so far so I decided to join this.
He seem very comitted to his recovery (this time) and has been attending AA meeting every night since he has been home. He is now in an out-patient program and seems to like it.
I guess I just need some advice for dealing with all of this. I have believed and trusted him so many times in the past that I don't want to be dissappointed again. He hit "rock bottom" on Jan 5 after a two day binge when he was missing for two days drinking and partying with his friends. That was my breaking point and I told him I was leaving and starting packing and looking for a new place to live. (we have one daughter together and I have three older children from a previous marriage)
He decided to make the call himself this time instead of me and other family members doing it for him. I told him he was on his own this time and has to get better for himself not me, but I did promise to be supportive and attend the family meetings to get more information on his disease so that I could be more understanding.
Well so far so good but I am still very scared. He has told me that he will not promise me that he will never use again- he will just show me every day and stay sober every day. One day at a time.
Thank you for listening and I welcome any advice.
Leslie