Originally Posted by
WantsOut 
Why did God give me feet if they weren't meant to kick my husband's butt?
*LOL*
Now that was funny *LOL*
Submit to your husbands does NOT mean become a doormate.
What it means is that a woman understands her position in the marriage *as God intends* and not take over the role that the man "should" be doing.
Man and woman are equal in God's sight but the role of each is different in God's sight.
The woman is to be a help mate and the man is to be a leader by example, (not a bully that dictates)
Words such as submit, respect, obey as written in the bible do not mean what most people think they mean.
Maybe it would be better understood if you think of it in terms of the word Usurp...
Meaning #1: seize and take control
Meaning #2: take the place of
God's role for the man should be left to the man to do, not taken from him.
He won't do it? Well that is his issue Not your issue.
A point of respect... I respect you enough that I am leaving your issue in your hands to deal with or not deal with. Such is not an earned respect but a given respect as commanded from God. Earned respect is something we all would give when so earned.
Submit but not to a point of being a doormate or punching bag...Boundaries are needed if such things happen and should be used.