hi aries
I also kept complete control of the finances while my AH was active. I gave him a cash allowance each week, and stood firm when he complained about not having enough. He was just drinking it all anyway, and beer is pretty cheap. We really didn't fight about it, because he knew he was no good with money in his pocket. At one point he had me giving it to him each day, beause otherwise he was broke by Wednesday.
I also wanted to tell you that now that he is sober he is very glad I didn't allow him to drag us into financial ruin. Your guy may nto like you taking moves to control the money, but does he worry how you feel about his drinking away the bill money? It is funny how much more we worry about making them upset than they do about making us upset.