I had a problem in that when I told AH I wanted to split, his therapist said I was wrong to blame it all on the drinking. There were other issues. That kind of threw me because I felt that all the issues stemmed from the drinking - no sex, being passed out every night, not sleeping in the same room because of drunken snoring, etc. To have a professional say that maybe it wasn't just the drinking made me doubt myself. But now I regard her as his paid enabler.