High bottom
I suppose in some ways I was lucky, my xagf was financially responsible, professional in her career and to all outside apperances the picture of moderation. In fact, she drank at least a bottle of wine every single day, associated socially only with heavy drinkers and drug users. Could only connect emotionally and sexually when drunk or high.
In other ways, living with a "high bottom" or "functional " alcoholic is incredibly frustrating. It really does seem that they have it together, and its easy to doubt ones own perceptions. In fact, denial is an incredibly strong force, there is no tangible evidence of a problem.
No point to this, just venting