it's so true...my husband can get super depressed and miserable and no matter how much I try to cheer him up...He just rather be sucked in his own misery and take me with him...Lately when he drinks what I will do is tell him that I will not be part of his drunken misery and I just tune him out...to tell the truth I rather be having normal conversation with him...But it is useless when he is drunk and down...