I think you need to have serious words with your husband and take some action. Verbal abuse is never acceptable with regards to children...whether sober or drunk. It may hurt now but not as much as it will when your daughter is older and taking crap from her bf/h because she thinks it's acceptable as its what she grew up with. It's hard enough for adults to deal with verbal abuse, never mind kids. Sorry your family is going through this, I feel for you. x