Originally Posted by
newenglandgirl 
How do you know when to let someone "handle their disease in their own way" or when to do an intervention? I'm confused! My AH is extremely depressed and seems unable to reach out. I'm not sure if leaving him alone for long periods of time is letting him make his own decisions regarding his issues, or abandoning him when he is in crisis. How do we know when to intervene?
I am not sure of your situation. Is you husband away from home? Do you know where he is? I'm thinking that one way you could get everyone involved, your parents and his parents (and anyone else who loves him), is by doing an intervention. Is this what you are thinking?