Of course everyone must do what they think is best.
I told my in-laws,and the war began.They went against me big time.Blood IS,thicker than water...It took many years to heal that rift between us.I told them because i thought that they could help him.I thought that he would listen to them.Didnt work out that way.
That ole saying,the path that leads to hell is paved with good intentions,yup,this is how it worked out for me.