I'm probably a weak agnostic, and while some the steps and literature are dead-on about the attitude and warped perceptions of alcoholics/addicts, there are some steps I don't understand, especially Steps 6 and 7, about asking/having God (HP) "remove my defects".
How will I know all this has happened? What if I ask, and He says no? I have made the conscious decision to attend meetings, but I approach with trepidation. Does "take what you want and leave the rest" pertain to the Steps as well?