I am finally past, for the most part, the guilt, but I have been divorced for over a year and separated for a year and a half and I am letting him deal with his problems and I feel so much better about me. His problem is his so I don't even listen to anything he says unless it is positive. If it isn't correct or isn't nice, I honestly tell him he is wrong, and I don't like his tone and I won't tolerate it. I then end any correspondence with, Have a good day. I am so glad to be a real human being again!