don't worry...your house can't be half as terrible as mine...and dirty hair does not make you a bad mother...do what i do...throw the laundry in the basement....and forget it...hehe...i do laundry when the drawers are empty...and my kids are reduced to wearing a sweater and a pair pf pajama pants in july...lol...we do the best we can, and that's all we can do...you give them a lot of love and that's the most important thing...