I think my major character defect is my bossiness. I have a very strong idea of 'the rules' -of what needs to be done/not done and how... that I have unwittingly pushed upon others for too many years. Honestly, I always thought I was helping... I mean couldn't they see what was good for them? :-) But the truth is, now I think I control people to help validate the way I am living and give me a sense that all is well in my little world. In fact, my bossiness has often hurt those I am trying to help. I am working on it now but it is still very hard for me to shut up. It is also hard for me to listen, observe and not pass judgement right away. I am not sure if I will ever be able to observe and not judge but I would like to be able to observe and realize that there could be many reasons someone does what they do... and that it may be working for them then. I am working on tending to my side of the street and mine alone. It is so difficult to change myself!