it seems to me that although we may see things from our own point of view-we are not here to single anyone out and put them on the hot seat for what their current situation is. i think that is why we use "experience, strength and hope" as our formula for getting our point across.
no matter what our situation may be, it is ours by our choices. i see lots of damage to children, and i have seen my own grow through their "hardships" in our addicted environment. the best i can do is to take care of my own recovery and it will and IT DOES benefit my children AND the alcoholic too.