i agree fdm....i found that for myself, the closer someone got to the truth i was trying to justify away with my irrational jusifying, the more defensive and angry i became. just in my own case......
i
had someone in al-anon that just kept telling me i was hooked on the chaos. oh god, i wanted to let the air outta her tires. i wanted to spit in her coffee when she wasn't looking. i just was so angry with her.
but lo and behold.....hmmmmmmm.......guess what. lol
jeri