The one and only time my ex said he was going to off himself with a gun I told him that I would help him with that chore...you get the gun and load it and I will pull the trigger for ya......he didnt know whether or not to believe me and never did mention it again...hmmmm. Food for thought isnt it - I think sometimes they dont quite know how far they have pushed us and sometimes when we dont react with loud voices and fast movements thats when they questions whats going on in OUR heads....they ususally wont push that last button.