Hi Meg - good to hear from you!
I'm glad you and your mom had a nice visit. One of the best gifts of recovery is being able to heal relationships with family and friends. I'm so glad you're moving forward in your relationship with her.
As for hubby, he's coming out of that fog and living life sober - not an easy thing to do and he's dealing with a lot of different emotions. Just remember it's HIS stuff - so let HIM deal with it and don't take it personal that he still can't be as giving to your relationship as you would like. Meanwhile, you keep taking care of and focusing on you.
Hugs,
JG