Wow. Every single one of your posts helped me immensly. I am going to re-read them all as well as going to read the "guilt" sticky. Getting rid of the guilt of it "should" be me that goes and sees my mom has got to go away. It really gets the best of me. Something I am goinig to work on. I also feel so sorry for her that sometimes that gets to me too. Like, if she just would have done this or that.......I look at some of the pretty decorated houses that families go and visit and wonder how warm and wonderful it would be to have a mom to go visit like that at Christmas. OH well. I am usually okay with this stuff. I think the fact that she has moved farther away and I never see her anymore has alot to do with it. THANKS.