I know I lose it at times, particularly when AH is really trashed and behaving like an annoying pain in the a**. However, it doesn't get me anywhere and oftentimes escalates into a war. I've learned to get my butt outta the house fast. You should have dressed to the teeth and gone to the party, in my opinion. I would have gone and had a great time. If anyone asked about hubby, I would have said, "He's home sick." It's true because he IS sick.
I recently went to Tucson and AH went with me to a tourist attraction about an hour's drive southeast of the city. He was smashed. People were glancing at him and giving each other that ah-ha look. Didn't bother me in the least. If he wants to go out in public and spit and slobber I don't allow it to be a reflection on me.
We all get ticked off at the A's in our life from time to time, particularly after a rotten day. Don't beat yourself up over it.