Thank you all for your suggestions.
I have been considering going to an open AA meeting and will do so this week.
Laurie: I appreciate your insight. This is what my W desribes about herself. She says that she does not know what she wants from minute to minute. For me, this is hard to understand. I tend to interpret this to mean that she is not sure that she wants to be married to me, which is a distinct possibility.
This recovery stuff is hell. It's harder than active addiction for me right now.