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Old 11-04-2006, 08:27 AM
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I don't really have an experienced answer for your question.

My AH was a binger. He could go days, weeks, or even months without a drink. (Though I've often wondered in the past if he really did go as long as he claimed and I thought or just hid it well).

I used to believe when living in that situation that having an A that drank daily would be somewhat better in the aspect of at least knowing what to expect. Knowing it would be a daily thing somehow seemed reliable in a weird sense of the word.
But having lived with a binger, I think it was the not knowing that just really was so hard on me. Always wondering if today would be the day, never knowing how or when he'd be when the time came, etc.

Today, I know that both daily drinkers and bingers are not well people. I know today that both would be hard for me to deal with. I'm sure there are pros and cons to each situation (if you can actually call them pros).

Regardless, I just know that it comes down to me on how I choose to live my life, react, etc.
Hard to swallow and accept, but I finally get it.
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