I have a condition called an essential tremor which makes my hands shake. Once at a meeting, I pulled a dollar out of my pocket for the pasket and the leader told me my hands where shaking so bad that I needed the dollar more that AA. I blew up, I tried to tell him about my hands, then I decided it was none of his business why my hands shook, and even if I was coming off a drunk, if I wanted to contribute, I should contribute. He then tried to back track but I was crabby and over it. The point is, I will spend my whole life with people pointing out my shaking hands to me. Some of them because they are concerned, some because they are jerks, some because they like to hear themselves speak. If I think the person is actually intersted, I give them a little rundown on how and why. If not, I just try to move on and close off my energy. Dealing with other people is one of the unsung prolblems of a disability I think. Good luck.