When I said no other choice, I meant at the moment they are fighting w/ us, or verbally abusing. It was in response to Getting By,that when she was really ticked....In that moment, it is either walk away and hold back, or stay try to "reason"/talk. Yes, indeed there are lots of choices. But, at that moment what are the other choices? The point I was making is if I walked away to avoid further "trouble", it wouldn't accomplish anything but diffusing the situation and "living" with it, AND I would still have the issues accumulating. He would pass out, and I would have "tolerated" the insults etc. Done with all that now, but not everyone is. Certainly, can't fight/defend/discuss with them when they are drunk, and rarely when he was sober, that would be controntational! And he would be unavailable, or extremely defensive. So much more peace now in my life.