Need to learn detachment
I come from a long line of Alchoholics. My mom being the worst. I am now married to an AH. I need to learn detatchment, desperately. My mother in law says I should try to put on a happy face and show him how much I appreciate him blah blah blah. I don't have much patience, and when he picks up his bottle and starts drinking, I get very angry. This is all becoming so emotionally exhausting for me. I have been learning not to do things for him that he should be doing himself, like pay his own bills, calling the bank to cancel his credit card after losing it during a binge etc. But my form of detatchment is just ignoring him and talking to him only when I need to answer a question that he asks me. I feel less stressed out that way. How ever it can be very lonely. I hope this thread helps me with learning detatchment.