Hey Kermit,
Four years ago, the love of my life abruptly walked out of my life. I was eleven and a half years sober at the time and have never experienced emotional pain like that. I went into true mourning and it seemed like it would never end. But it did, although I still get a little sad sometimes when I think about her.
But now I'm grateful for the experience-it seems to have softened my heart and smoothed off the sharp corners. It also seems to have allowed me to truly regain myself.
Be good to yourself during this time. Although there isn't much anyone can say at times, let your friends be there. Take care.
Jim