I feel that having a sponsor is essential for a person making a first attempt at the 4th step.She would help you prepare and insure that you have the first three steps as a solid foundation.I'd suggest that you take more time to get comfortable talking to women,and form some sober friendships.In the meantime,you could be keeping a journal to help get things on paper.Often,seeing things in black and white is a way of getting more clarity.
phoenix