Originally Posted by So Confused
If you are waiting for him to realize your pain or comment Do not hold your breath
Amen to that. It's like two pieces of a puzzle that won't fit. As long as they're still using, there's no making them see your point of view. I tried for so long, but then I finally realized it was making him happy to see me turn crazy and making him happy was not what I wanted.
I let go. I filed for divorce. I removed him from my life and I stopped crying - eventually. The hurt feelings, bad words, negativity, manipulation, etc. is like a bad cut. The bleeding stops but the scar remains. (At least for me it did). I'm a much happier person and the scar is there as a reminder of something I never want to have to deal with again.
Don't get me wrong. It's hard. Very, very hard. It took me 2 years to make the decision to file for the divorce. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just take care of yourself in the meantime.
Hugs.