See now this is why I keep coming here.
I have recently let go of some relationships/friendships in my life and really could not figure out why..........but I see now how they abused these qualities about me, not to the extent of my ex AH, but they did and not until I started to become healthy did it bother me.
I guess when your in the realm of being a "sick codependant" you can't help but be a magnet to these type of people.